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  A very lonely life.

  by Harpy in

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  how do i stop having a lonely life?

  i am 33 years old and have never had a relationship with anyone.

  i have never dated..and as much as i would like to blame the jws, truth is i have never been asked out by anyone..ever.. i am a bit large, but i am not too fat or ugly and i think i am a good person, so why can't i find someone??

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  You could maybe start hanging out at a fun, friendly church that has a singles group. That could get you knowing people on a fun level and work you into a little bit of a social life. You would find females and males all in the same boat, a chance to work on your social skills first. You could gain some confidence. Everyone has a someone. You just haven't put yourself out there to find them. The more you do it the easier it gets. There are alot of people like you who want the same things you want, go find them girl.

  I know thats easier said then done. I really do understand your loneliness. I've been married 25 years and some of those have been the most lonely years of my life, so having a partner doesn't always fix it.

  No one will care for you more then you care for yourself. Take charge of you. Learn to be happy with you. Learn to love you for you. Use some kind of a group for practice, then narrow the field. What ever it is make it something you would like to do or already like to do.

  Go get em.
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  The Awakening

  by Cygnus in

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  2. friends

  as many of you know, i have had some severe emotional issues the last couple of months.

  repression from growing up jw and being so damned responsible for all my years and setting aside emotions....... now the emotions are finally kicking their way through the door and coming out with a vengeance.

  i found a piece on a website devoted to anti-depressants and i normally don't do this but i thought i would share it with the board.

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  Thanks for posting that.

  I have copied it to hang onto. I can feel the Awakening in myself, but have hit the snooze alarm a couple times.
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  SNEAKY Bastards!

  by Jez in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  my husband (non-jw) just called me from work, seems 2 people walked into his workplace, walks up to him and says, "can you put these in your coffee room?

  " at the same time shoving 2 mags upside down into his hand.

  he was busy, says, "sure" (thinking nothing of it).

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  I have noticed the past couple times they stopped at my door, that they hesitate/avoid telling you who they are. They tried to wiggle around the question. Why are they so sneaky about it? Are they being taught that or is it to save their own personal skins? One set was two elderly men and the other set was an elderly man with a teenage girl.

  The first set of old men finally said "We are Jehovah's Witnesses, you don't see any other religions going door to door do you?" I told him "Yes I do". I have had Mormons and Baptists come to my door. Noone has stopped here at my new house though. I'm waiting.
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  Who has been caught by the cops,,,,

  by kls in

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  2. experiences

  doing the nasty in a car .

  i was twice ,even with the windows all steamy they still knew ,,,,,,,,,,i wonder how?

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  Been there

  I have

  We were in a van in a very secluded area. The windows were all steamed up, lights pulled up and stopped in front of the van. As you scramble to get everything on as it should be, your mind is always wondering be they friend or foe. You see the flash light going around the van then a loud tap on the side doors. You open the doors, with a sheepish grin and say "Hi Officer". He asks for names and addresses. He asked me "Are you here of your own freewill"? "Yes Sir I sure am". He then informs us that we should not be here and that he will be making his rounds again in about 20 minutes and hopes we will be gone by then.

  We left saying what a nice cop that was. That was 25 years ago. Ahh the good old days.
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  Just A Mere Mortal Once More..

  by Englishman in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  good people, i've decided that my days as a moderator are over.. it's been an interesting 3 years.

  some highs, some incredible lows, some weeping and wailing and gnashing of teeth.

  some hilarity, some tears.

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  Been there

  Ken P.

  Don't try too hard, I hear after 4 hours it is considered a medical emergency! (If you believe everything you hear on TV)

  Englishman,

  Good luck on your new journey where ever it may take you. So glad you are healthy and up and running again. Thanks for all your time and effort in helping to keep this place going.
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  New Here.....And Grieving

  by evita in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i have been lurking for quite a few months.

  i have been trying to get up enough nerve to tell you my whole story but am finding it painful and scary to write about.

  so here's the shorter version until i get brave enough to spill all the details.

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  (((((evita)))))

  Welcome to the board evita, I am so glad you found us and got the courage up to say hi to us.

  I am sorry for all the pain you have had to deal with for so long and your most resent sorrow.

  Stay around and keep talking to help work things out for you so you can heal and move on with your life. Keep remembering your Mothers loving side and believe that she knows the real truth now, what ever it may be. She loved you as much as she could and you loved her as much as she would let you. You were there when she needed you. You were a good daughter. You can not get back the lost years. Use this time as a true chance for freedom, don't take one more second of your loving self away from the family you have, give your kids "ALL" of their Mom back. Be who you are without guilt now, put your divided self back together into one again. Take your life back and spread your wings and fly.
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  Michael Jackson at Memorial

  by startingover in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i just received an email that said mj attended the memorial in solvang last night.

  he attended with his mom and dad and also his son.

  this info was forwarded to me via 2 others but i saw the original email so i think it's probably true.

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  Been there?

  What? I didn't even go, I don't know if he was there or not!
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  The brainwashing around the "Schiavo" case...

  by Brummie in

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  up until this evening i had thought teresa schiavo was in an unconcious state, lying on a bed with just a machine keeping her alive.

  how wrong was i?

  i saw her smiling and showing awareness of her surroundings.

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  I was not sure how I felt about this case earlier. I could see both sides of the issue. I felt like it was a typical custody battle with both sides doing what they had to, to keep the kid, with alot of he said, she said stuff.

  I was more confused on my thoughts because Terri was not in a coma. That makes it harder for me because to me "Coma" "Unconcious" is vegitative, she is not vegitative in my mind. I had to try and think hard if I would want to live the way she is living. We would not kill her if she was born that way, why would we do it now? I have still not decided if I would want to live like that but I have decided one thing is for sure.......This is Inhumane, Barbaric, Murder. We are dehydrating & starving a defenceless, living, conscious (to what ever degree) human being, to death. Our most vial criminals on death row have more humane treatment at death then an innocent victim of a tragic (questionable) what ever it was that put her there.

  Let her family have her back to treat her and rehabilitate her the best they can. The "Loving Hubby" can go on with life (which he has), the parents get their daughter back, they want her, he doesn't, isn't that simple enough? There is nothing in writing to prove anything and we know our system works on "In Writing". How far would a contested Will or lack there of, get in the courts if some suspect relative said "Uncle Joe told me he wanted me to have all his earthly posessions, and I have a couple people (closest and dearest friends) that heard him say it". If no written will was found, I don't think it would get very far.

  Terri.....I am sorry and ashamed of us that your life has come to this.
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  Could somebody help me with the right words.....

  by Strawberryfieldsforever in

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  hello to all of you.... it's been a long time since i've posted here on the board.

  life has been going well for my husband and me after leaving the jw's.

  after being with them for over 30 years (being raised with them) has been hard for us as we have struggled to become part of the word that they have condemned.

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  Been there

  I'm sorry for your pain.

  You can tell him that you both love him, that you plan on seeing him again, and you will go back as soon as you are able to. He doesn't have to know that you will "NEVER BE ABLE TO"
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  From Dante's Inferno To Jehovah's Jacuzzi:

  by Englishman in

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  2. friends

  on which level of hell will you finish up?.

  http://www.4degreez.com/misc/dante-inferno-test.mv.

  oh, btw, the jehovah's jacuzzi thing was intentionally misleading.

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  Level 3 The way I see it though, just getting to level 3 was hell so it shouldn't get any worse.